It's all about the mix

Every relationship you have in life has two important elements to it...

Whether it be husband/wife, boss/employee, coach/player, etc.

You need both to make the relationship work...but the key is how much of one do you have compared to the other.


One is logical, objective and structural in nature. The titles you hold in this relationship, define your role.

The titles define the rules.

You feel obligation, responsibility and a commitment to the long term vision.

The other is emotional, subjective and relational in nature. Regardless of the titles you hold in the relationship, your feelings for the other person define your role.

The titles defy the rules.

You feel passion, spontaneity and a commitment to the short term vision.

Again...both are needed.

And when you are dealing with the human element of relationships...just a little bit one way or another can make a huge difference.

If you are too much on either side...the teeter totter tips.

Look, you can get to 100 several different ways but if one is 50 and the other is 50...your math will equal far greater than 100.

That's the mathematics of the human element at work.