Which Loss Loses More

 “All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”

Loss. 

We all have experienced it in one form or another. 

Whether unexpected or something known, the sting and hurt from the loss can be crippling. 

But what loss loses more?  Death or walking out? 

By walking out, I mean that someone is still very much alive but no longer is in your life.  For whatever reason.  Anger. Indifference. Or simply, growing apart. 

Death has a finality to it but I will argue the memories tend to be sweeter. 

Walking out still presents hope but there's more sadness to it. 

Each one takes a piece of you away.  Your wholeness is compromised. 

But like damaged muscles, tendons, and ligaments, the area around it usually gets stronger. Make the area around your hurt stronger. 

"Anything you lose comes around in another form." 

Always. 

PS; That's a picture of my Dad and Sister. I have lost both. 

How High is your Bar

 

Ever date someone who told you horror stories of their ex?  

Made you feel pretty good about having a chance to clear the bar that was previously established, right? Basically, in some cases, all you had to do was take a normal step and the bar was in the distant past. 

If the past relationship was McDonald's, you need to shoot for a four-star restaurant. 

When you are setting personal goals, you need to ask yourself, "how high is the bar?"

Setting it too high, sets yourself up for failure and disappointment.

Setting it too low, leads to unfulfilled potential. 

Always ask first, how high is the bar, and then find the right height and take a run at it. 

Ready, set, go! 

PS; Several years ago, I told you about a bar in the Cayman Islands named Calico Jack's and I said the barstools and bar are ungodly high but the climb was worth it.  This latest brain dump made me think of that because...they set the bar high. 😉